I never thought I'd think it...

But divorce has crossed my mind this past week. Even though he didn't have an a physical affair his emotional betrayel has torn me apart. Every time his phone goes off my stomach turns and my blood pressure elevates. I want to obsessively go through this phone and computer. I think about it. Picture it. Go through it all in my head over and over again. I know many marriages have survived infedility and I wonder what their secrets are...what's the magic advice? Can you just magic it better please?